ever realize that the people who are most important and present in your life are the ones you don’t pay enough attention to. or put enough effort forth to care for them or encourage them. or remind them of why it is that you love them? do you ever need a reminder of their incredible-ness, amazing-ness, unique-ness? ever just need to take a moment and think about it?
i have been doing this a lot lately. i suppose it comes with transitioning out of the college life and realizing that i have to choose which relationships need to be sustained. it is a tough negotiation. i think we are often afraid of letting people go, or moving on, or starting something new. we are not trained to think of relationships as seasonal. perhaps this reality scares us, makes us feel as though the relationships are not deep and or real or even Godly. we get so caught up in creating life-long friendships that we forget that there are seasons, changes, springs and winters. we don’t like endings. and forget that an ending is also a beginning. we say goodbye only to say hello. people come in and out of our lives if but for a moment. and we do the same in the lives of others. need we worry and fuss over making every relationship life-long? should we not realize and celebrate the potential to have meaningful, intentional and God-ordained relationships with people we meet at a gas station? yes perhaps the encounters are infrequent and ephemeral. but they can be real and purposed indeed. i realize that while i love, value, appreciate and respect many of my peers and friends from college that were are now in different places, doing different things, communing with different people. this is okay. it’s normal and quite expected. we can still affirm those relationships and recognize the contributions those individuals made to our lives and thank them for it. but we can move on, say goodbye, and pray a blessing over their lives. go well my friend! anyone have any thoughts on this matter? comment away…
but then there are those people who you know you cannot live without. the people who will be in your wedding or at your new year’s party. the people who become your God-parents or honorary aunts and uncles. the people with whom you vacation and swap the joys and woes of child-rearing. the friends who you call when you get the new job or when you need someone to listen, to hold, to pray. those are the people with whom the friendship is life-long. you know this. and they know it.
brent. he is one of those people. he is my best friend, my boy, my go-to-guy. he is the type of guy i can call after months of not talking and converse to for hours. no matter how long it had been. we just pick up right were we left off. sure we have grown and changed, matured and learned. but we know that no matter what, we will always be buds. i love the security of that. and the mutual commitment we both have to maintaining our friendship. brent is one of the most humble, genuine, and real dudes i know. he is honest, supportive, encouraging and simply loyal. now matter what. he makes people around him comfortable in who they are. he puts them at ease and makes them roll on the ground with laughter. i love this man. he is a incredible friend, loving son, and faithful brother in Christ. i am blessed to have him in my life and honored to call him my best friend.
friendships take work. they take time and commitment, prayers and honesty. they require trust and faith and a willingness to give of oneself, to sacrifice.